Sometimes the brain deceives us with unrealistic thoughts, these thoughts are given the name of “distorted thoughts” [/ mks_highlight], many of them become a real burden on our social relations and mark some of our phobias. Let’s see which are the most common distorted thoughts to be able to recognize them, not to fall into the “trap” that leads us to our brain. We are sure that you will feel identified with some.
Examples of delusions of our brain
With this type of thinking one does dichotomous choices, there is no middle. Things are only good or bad. This creates a world in black and white and one cannot see the shades of gray. When this thought applies about yourself then if the individual is not perfect, feels a loser or a useless.
Interpretation of thought:
They are beliefs or ideas which one is made of people or situations. This occurs to the extent that one is convinced that people feel and react in the same way that one’s self in a similar situation. Therefore you can not tell that people may act or be different from what you think some.
It is the tendency to see small signs likely catastrophe. For example: A headache indicates that we have a brain tumor or rapid pulse indicates an impending cardiac infarction.
This behavior usually leads to the habit of comparing with others. If winner of comparison, you’ll enjoy a momentary relief and if it is losing will feel humiliated. The basic of this kind of thinking is is interpreted every glance, every gesture or conversation as a track or a data to be analysed and assessed himself. The individual who thinks so believes that everything they do or say, is in some way a reaction towards the. Live slaves to compare with others, trying to determine who the best dress, who has better body, etc.
Who has this distortion only sees a (negative) element of the situation to the exclusion of everything else. Total situation, take a simple detail and the rest of the event is held by this detail. Some are sensitive only to the losses and not also valued the likely benefits of the things. Others see only the minimum possibility of danger in a situation and that prevents them from enjoying the whole, which can be nice. Some people only look for evidence of injustice do not value the rest. This is not only considering new situations but also to re-examine the memories. If one thus proceeds to review its past may again experience selectively (filtering the rest) only situations where he was angry or with anxiety or depression, skipping the moments where he was well. In summary: This class of individuals takes everything bad in something and magnify it, while on the other hand the good things are filtered. She is like that, before a full bottle halfway, systematically says: “this bottle is half empty”.
Fallacy of control:
They are distortions of the sense of control or power over itself. A person can see himself as powerless and externally controlled, passive, that nothing can make or on the contrary as that can do, everything believed responsible for everything and having to carry the world on their shoulders. The two basic ways of seeing the world from this State is or feel victim of fate or on the contrary, believed responsible for the suffering or the happiness of those around him.
Belief that if you feel certain things is because they are actually well. If one feels ugly it is because one is really ugly. If you feel guilty is because he has to have done something wrong. The problem believe that emotional thinking is always valid, as is believing that everything you said TV advertising is all true.
Fallacy of the change:
It is the belief of the individual that it is easier to change the others to adapt one to modify one to adapt to the environment. Strategies for change others include blame them, require them, hide them things and negotiate. The result is usually that the other person feels attacked constantly and do not change at all. The fundamental thoughts such assumption is that the happiness of one depends on the actions of others.
Label is a label people or situations from any fact or circumstance. If someone does not pay anything it is tagged’s selfish. If a person shows little bustling in the group a couple of times already is tagged boring. These ideas may contain some truth, but the trouble with labels is that they ignore all contrary evidence, turning the vision of things into something very rigid and routine.
Expected from them:
Individuals with this distortion have one “list inside” rigid rules and stereotypical envelope as “should” behave or act both he and others. If those are transgress internal rules is much angry or feels very guilty if the same is who violates them. As a result of this often you end up taking the position of strict judge and permanently find faults in others or himself. If others do not act accordingly to your criteria is irritated or gets intolerant. It is convinced that all “should” know the rules “should” follow them.
You have to continually prove that their view is correct. It is always on the defensive not interested opinion of the other but defend your idea. It’s like one never is wrong. People with this type of opinions rarely change because they tend not to hear new information, everything which does not fit into what you already believe they ignore it and generally considered to be right is more important than maintaining good relations.
Individuals with this distortion experience relief when they find who is guilty or responsible for any situation. But this, usually implies that the other who is forced to become responsible for elections and decisions which, in short, are also the responsibility of one. Some people, preferentially, turn over the guilt on themselves. Thus constantly worry about believing himself to be incompetent, stupid, insensitive or emotional.
Fallacy of the reward:
The person with this distortion behave “correctly” in anticipation of a reward. It usually becomes exhausted mentally and physically working and thinking that their efforts will be recognized and rewarded for who one estimates (children, spouse, boss, God, etc.).
The individual tends to make a valid conclusion for all from a single, generally done little relevant, carefully ignoring everything that may contradict it. Thus if one tide is a journey made on aircraft never held another. This leads to a more limited life because if something bad happens once be expected to happen that again and again. Source